Sir Nigel's Journey…

Dear Sister,

I saw you walking towards me today. I smiled and said hello. You ignored me. I just wanted you to know that I wasn’t tryna holla. It’s just I saw someone who looked like me, and thought I’d be polite (coz Mama said I should be) and say hello. Not every brother is tryna to holla at you. There are some of us who want nothing from you, except perhaps hello back.

Signed

Your brother

Ok so I’ve been posting a few youtube videos lately – I’m not being a lazy blogger per say, I’m just finding interesting and relevant stuff to share.(I think anyway)?

I completely stumbled across this on Twitter last month – don’t really remember how. Someone I’m following must have retweeted this and the title of the Tweet caught me attention – ‘The Modern Day Matchmaker’…hmmm and so I watched it and have been thinking about it since. Only just found it actually…here goes

I often wonder…
…if she even realises the truth
that no matter what happens
Brother man ain’t never gon’ be like Daddy
Sadly…
Sister doesn’t see that yet

Society got the masses thinking
Feeling
Like this life deal is a constant battle
Who controls versus the rest of us
Seems like we all forgot about trust
Forgot about the kind of love ‘Free-Free’ spoke so eloquently of
Forgot about the ‘real’ reasons why we got involved in the first place
Spitting copious amounts of clichés
‘Baby you complete me’
Can’t live without them we claim
Yet we manage to subject them to our insecurity-inspired actions
Photocopying factions
Mummy versus Daddy situations of old
Sister declaring she ain’t never gon’ be Mummy
For in her mind Mummy is weak
And Sister is strong
Same Sister who meets a good Brother man and runs away
Yet openly declares good Brother men don’t exist
Same Sister who finds a good Brother man and plays defence the whole time
You see Sister doesn’t want to end up like Mummy
All Mummy ever did wrong was to actually trust
Submit
And embrace love
Daddy did too
Yet Sister never acknowledges the latter
Only focusing on a one-sided affair
All she seems to recall is abusive Daddy
Verbal or otherwise
So now Sister wanders this sphere very afraid
Afraid to embrace this thing they call love

Meanwhile Brother man knows not of these struggles
Unaware of Sister’s internal battle
You see the Sister struggles
Fighting constantly
With herself
Attempting to deal with societal pressures
So she fires her frustrations at him
Bombarding Brother man with issues that don’t relate to his own actions
No rhyme or reason thinks Brother man
Shrugs and moves on with life
Sadly
There stands a man
Ready
Willing to embrace real love
And yet time is running
Running out I mean
Patience was never his to embrace
True story

*Taken from the ‘For My Sisters’ series